Writting Topic #1 pg 589

The short story “Marriage Is A Private Affair” by Chinua Achebe, is in short a story of marriage that occurred many years ago. Back then a person would marry someone who was chosen for them, now and days we choose who we marry and who our hearts love. In contrast from my parents, the father of the young man in this story gives his son his back because of an irrational marriage he did not put together. My parents are both very inattentive parents that I cannot recall a moment here they sat next to me and talk to me about anything that had to do with marriage. In this case I had set my own standards. However, although my parents did not talk to me about marriage, I understood for sure that they were not like old-fashioned attitudes that would accommodate the marriage themselves. Something I remember from both of my parents saying to me when I was young was that I should not marry a gangster, drug attic, or lazy person. They would tell me that to find someone with a good education and character to maintain his family stable. Although I did not marry a gangster, drug attic, or lazy person, I did not marry an educated one either, I chose who my heartfelt in love with and I am very proud, thankful and appreciated of my choice. Yet, the relationship between my sister and my father changed over a marriage situation. And although my father never set any kind of standards between husbands, he did not appreciate my sister’s husband and so both of his grandchildren from my sister’s side have not met him. Here I am comparing him to the grandfather of this story, because he is stubborn enough to refuse anything with the family, although his grandchildren would like to meet them.
If I put a little bit of a harder thought into this measurement, It could be possible that my parents might have an aggressive understanding to a marriage. I believe that both of my parents would be betrayed or at least felt betrayed if the person I chose was different than me. That can be in many outrages senses. I got married after my parent’s separation and putting this into thought my father would have a mere image of my husband. He has never met my husband, but I believe they would get along. We were both raised in the same neighborhood, he has a soft attitude, he has a sense of humor, and a very artistic character. However, my husband never made it past 11th grade in high school. He has achieved many goals in life, but my father will probably be upset at this, since he had education first in line. However, I really appreciate the fact that I live in the world of today and I am not over taken by the shameless attitudes of controllable parents who would rather set your heart down with whom they believe is good for you, rather than letting your heart love whom they desire.